I have learned several things since my
divorce and being back in the dating world. I promised myself that if I were to
ever get remarried again that I needed to have a clear level head when entering
into any new relationship. One thing that can be a potential problem is the
idea of that spark you feel when you meet someone and it is new and exciting.
Chemistry is an attraction and desire to be with another person both physically
and emotionally. However chemistry alone is not a good
judge of character because of the physical and emotional response it creates
you can end up truing a blind eye to bigger problems in a potential
relationship. We allow ourselves to get so caught up in our feelings which can be strong that we ignore or
fail to see the red flags that create the bigger picture. Even in the best of relationships chemistry can fade if the
relationship is not nurtured. If we go into a relationship with our blinders on
we will find ourselves losing the chemistry we once had as flaws that should
not have been over looked appear. I also love this quote from Sister Linda K
Burton who said, “I am convinced that a husband is never more attractive to his
wife than when he is serving in his God-given roles as a worthy priesthood
holder.” From and LDS stand point I find this to be true that if the
desires of their heart match the desires of our hearts the more attractive we
will become to our spouses. When we are actively seeking a righteous partner we
need to be in return a righteous person. Together we can than build a strong
foundation for an eternal marriage one that will require work to keep the spark
alive.
