"The balance of all five bonding dynamics determines the healthiness of your relationship and clarity of your perspective partner...the five bonding dynamics have a specific order and logic to them: what you know about a person determines the degree you trust him or her; this trust directs you in choosing what personal needs you can rely on him or her to meet; you should become committed only to the extent that you know, trust, and depend on that person; and finally, any degree of intimacy is safest when it matches the context of the overall intimacy reflected in the levels of the other four dynamics...when the levels of the five dynamics are out of balance, then the emotional bond becomes unhealthy, and you tend to overlook crucial characteristics of the other person that should be exposed and explored."
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